Purplestarbitch

How I Became a Domme

This is how it started for me.

As a child, and into adult life, I was used and abused to the point where I did not understand who I was, or what my identity was. I lost a child and had a hysterectomy. Nothing I felt seemed to be worth living for - I had hit rock bottom.

After a lot of help I began to feel some sort of well-being. I enrolled as a mature student in September 2006. Christmas came, then New Year, and my resolution was to make myself available for dating, as I had been single for four years. In January, a couple of good friends forced me out of my doldrums, and took me along to the Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar.

To my surprise, I felt so confident, welcome and SAFE there that I embraced the environment like a duck to water. I had so much confidence I entered the fetish fashion show.

I couldn't believe what I was doing, as in the past I had suffered from anorexia, had no confidence at all, and here I was on stage, dressed in fetish wear, baring all, in front of strangers and cameras! For the first time in my life I felt euphoric without the use of drugs or drink.

Since this experience, I haven't looked back, and have attended many clubs and events. I have found my sexuality and what works for me. Domming is my thing, although I do switch.

I can almost hear the critics saying, of course she would be into BDSM because she has been abused, but that's a narrow-minded way of looking at things, and simply not true.

Here is why, from my own point of view: when I PLAY with my sub/partner, it is about CONSENT and enjoyment. I know the limits of what I will and can do, because I understand pain. I won't do humiliation play because I feel the humiliation instead of the sub, so I wouldn't go there.

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Shooting the Messenger

The internet is a convenient scapegoat for society's ills.

The UK government is to legislate how best to imprison potentially many people for viewing content on the internet.

How should governments regulate the details of our personal lives and control individual expression ?

Preserve Individual Freedoms

Backlash campaigns to ensure the right remedies are applied to the right problems.

Whilst doing so we preserve hard won individual rights and liberties.

See no evil.

The government doesn't want you to view certain images. And will send you to prison if you possess them. Even in the privacy of your own home.